Love Is Blind "Villain" Uche Answers All Your Burning Questions After Missing Reunion

The most controversial pod squad member is setting the record straight. 

Although Love Is Blind star Uche Okoroha skipped the season five reunion episode, he is ready to address the drama with exes Aaliyah Cosby and Lydia Velez Gonzalez.

"I'm ok with being a 'villain,'" he wrote on his Instagram Story Oct. 16. "It makes for great television. But while the show is still airing, I'll also speak my truth."

So, during a fan Q&A, the software entrepreneur weighed in on Aaliyah's claim that she wasn't his type, as well as the allegation he and former flame Lydia planned to appear on the Netflix show together.

Lydia said during the Oct. 15 reunion that she and Uche briefly discussed seeing the casting call in November 2021, but said that was the end of their conversation. "I'm going to say it really clear," Lydia said onscreen, "I had no confirmation that Uche was going to be there. If I had that power, he would have not been there, 100 percent." 

However, Uche denied that Lydia had the story right. (The Houston lawyer previously alleged on the Miss Understood podcast that Lydia "absolutely" knew he was applying because he began following a producer on Instagram.)

Furthermore, he has now explained why he sent Lydia's husband Milton Johnson a text on their wedding day, which went ignored. Uche posted the alleged screenshot of his message, which addressed Milton by his pod nickname: "Congratulations, Milk. Want to chat about it?"

So, why did he send a text to his ex's husband? For that answer and more of what he shared during a recent fan Q&A on Instagram, read on for his written responses: 

Aaliyah wasn't your type?

Uche Okoroha: "I think Aaliyah is beautiful. Furthermore, I love black women, find black women attractive and date black women.

I think it's much easier to find an excuse as to why your relationship didn't work out than to take accountability and address your own faults. Sympathy is the best way to win public favor. 

I'll be discussing exactly what went wrong with the relationship between Aaliyah and I soon—and instead of placing blame I will give perspective on what I believe we BOTH could have done better."

Why did you text Milton?

UO: "Off camera—Milton is more open with his emotions. We had a video chat three days before the wedding where he expressed some serious concerns to me. The text was to congratulate him, but follow up on these concerns. This had nothing to do with Lydia. Milton and I may not have been close, but many of the guys came to me for advice and guidance and I wanted to be there for him and check in on him after our discussion."

Why did you keep reaching out to Milton?

UO: "The one text I've posted today is the only one I've ever sent him after the wedding. It's also the only text he never responded to in the history of us knowing each other."

Address "BBQ Uche" vs "Pod Uche"

UO: "I prefer 'actual Uche' which you can only find in person, not in an artificial environment filmed for entertainment purposes."

Why did you send the same text to Lydia and Aaliyah?

UO: "I don't like to be on bad terms with anyone. We all have the same mutual friends from the show and I don't want things to be awkward while we all go through this very public experience. I reached out to several other members from the cast when the show aired to check in on them as well."

Why is it that no one was on your side?

UO: "Every time someone is on my side—it gets edited out. At the BBQ [Johnie Maraist] was the only one to stand up for Aaliyah and confirm Lydia was divulging information about me against Aaliyah's wishes.

At the reunion, Chris [Fox] stepped in to say some words on my behalf since we are still friends. Selective editing helps control a narrative. I'm still friends with a lot of the cast."

Read on for an update on the other Love Is Blind couples:

While the season five couple seemed to have worked their way through various issues—including Izzy’s early connection with Johnie Maraist and Stacy’s high expectations about her lifestyle and plateware (no paper plates, please!)—Stacy cited Izzy's dishonesty about his credit history as a major reason she chose not to get married.

Despite not saying “I do” at the altar, however, Stacy still wanted to remain in a relationship with the devastated Izzy.

"We’re at different spots,” he told her. "It really breaks my heart."

As for Stacy, she was thankful to Izzy for opening her up "emotionally," but she didn't feel 100 percent about their future. "Fairly certain isn't good enough for me to say yes for the rest of my life," she explained.

Season five's sole success story came from arguably its most unlikely pairing. 

After getting off to a rocky start after it was revealed Lydia was in a relationship with Milton's pod-friend Uche Okoroha before the show began, the geology-loving pair were the only ones to make it through the experiment still in a relationship. 

"Getting married is a dream come true," Lydia said. "I feel so, so happy. I got everything I need right here. It feels like home, it feels safe."

Ever the analytical engineer, Milton said, "All of the data points led me to: this is the right decision."

Opposites seemed to attract all season for this pair...until they got to the altar. Sensing Paul's hesitation, Micah asked him to give his answer first and it was a pass on marriage for Paul. 

"I literally feel like a disaster," Micah said. "If Paul would have wanted to marry me, I 100 percent would have said 'I do.'"

At the reunion, Paul apologized for his comment in a confessional about not being able to see Micah as a mother. 

"I think I phrased that really unfairly toward her," Paul explained. "I think the better way to phrase that would be that I can't see us as parents."

While the duo briefly reconciled after filming, they ultimately weren't able to make their relationship work, with Paul explaining they broke up for good when he visited Micah in Arizona.

 In After the Altar, Paul revealed he is dating a new woman who enjoys traveling and his cooking skills.

Despite Kwame's mother refusing to attend the wedding and his arguably inappropriate conversations with Micah, whom he also connected with in the pods, Kwame and Chelsea were one of the three couples to exchange vows at the end of season four. 

During the reunion, Chelsea revealed she has since met her husband's mom and Kwame offered an apology to his wife and her family for his behavior, saying his talks with Micah were "not the best representation."

The couple is living in Seattle with their beloved dog Rocky.

Sure, they say love is blind, but occasionally it needs a little bit of time—or proposing to another woman—to realize you made the wrong choice. Which is what happened when Zack initially got engaged to Irina Solomonova, only for the couple to break up during their trip to Mexico.

After asking Bliss for a second chance, the pair defied the odds (and Bliss' dad's wishes) and both said "I do" at the altar. (And, no, they did not sit it out, enjoying that all important first turn around the dance floor to Lee Ann Womack's "I Hope You Dance," the song that bonded them in the pods.)

After the finale aired, Zack shared a photo of the couple on Instagram with the caption "Eternal Bliss."

Since filming, Bliss revealed Zack and her father have become "best buds," one of the many reasons host Vanessa Lachey predicted they would be the first Love Is Blind couple to have a baby. 

Come on, not since season one's Cameron Hamilton and Lauren Speed has an LIB pairing seemed so meant to be!

The oldest couple in the experiment—Tiffany was 36 and Brett was 37—exchanged vows, even though Brett had a sartorial emergency when his pants did not fit properly on their wedding day. (Shout out to seamstress Lucia, you're a real one!)

Since filming wrapped, Tiffany and Brett moved to Portland and are still perfect! Phew!

After SK said "I don't" at their wedding, he and Raven seemingly parted ways.

However, when the cameras stopped rolling, the former flames reunited, revealing they were dating again during the season three reunion special. 

But a month later, the couple announced that "we have decided to go our separate ways" amid allegations that SK had been unfaithful. In a joint statement shared on social media in November, SK and Raven said, "Due to on-going legal proceedings surrounding these allegations, we cannot provide additional details and ask that you please respect our privacy during this hard time. Thank you for following our love story and believing in us."

Fans watched with dismay as Jackie chose to give Josh Demas, the other man she connected with in the pods, a second chance, meeting up with him before ending her engagement to Marshall.

However, during the reunion, Jackie set the record straight on the timeline of events. "I broke up with Marshall before I met Josh at the coffee shop," she said. "It looks like I'm a cheater. I am not a cheater."

Jackie then addressed the end of her relationship with Marshall, saying she "can take accountability" for her words and actions, but "I hope that he would do the same. We just weren't meant to be."

As for her romance with Josh? They were still dating and living together in After the Altar, but Jackie announced during a Sept. 17 Instagram Live that they had broken up.

Unfortunately for Marshall, who was hoping for some closure with Jackie, he was unable to fully express his feelings to his former fiancé as she chose not to attend the live taping.

But in an interview with E!, Marshall revealed he briefly connected with fellow contestant Kacia after the show. "We tried," Marshall explained, "But I wanted to just distance myself from all of that from that experience."

In After the Altar, Marshall revealed he's been dating girlfriend Dr. Chay Barnes for one year and wants to spend forever with her. 

Nancy and Bartise had one of Love Is Blind's more explosive weddings, but not because of the bride or groom.

While Nancy was ready to get married in the season three finale episode, Bartise revealed he was not so confident in their relationship. The update did not sit well with Nancy's family, who unapologetically sounded off on Bartise.

Despite the drama, Bartise and Nancy have maintained an on-again, off-again friendship. "We've gone from being friends to being acquaintances," he told E!, "to being completely no communication back to friends."

And in April 2023, Bartisse, who appeared on Perfect Match, announced the arrival of his son, Hayden, though he hasn't publicly shared the identity of the little one's mom. 

Several months later, he debuted his new romance with Cait Vanderberry on Instagram.

Nancy has also entered a new relationship, but has yet to publicly reveal her boyfriend's identity. 

During the season finale, viewers watched as Alexa and Brennon got married in front of their loved ones.

In heartwarming vows, Alexa gushed, "You make me laugh, you make me think and, more than anything else, you make me happy."

Well, we can't say we're surprised by this breakup.

The two never seemed to be on the same page during their courtship, resulting in several skirmishes. Though Zanab and Cole made it to the wedding altar, Zanab declared, "You have disrespected me. You have insulted me. You have critiqued me. And for what it is worth, you have single-handedly shattered my self-confidence."

Cole later reflected on their tumultuous relationship.

"We were going through all these bumps, but we were working through things and finding smoother waters," he told E! News. "And so I was hoping that we would at least be able to continue after the wedding if we didn't get married on that day."

Colleen and Matt successfully exchanged vows in the season three finale.

Despite the highs and lows they faced during their courtship, the pair felt confident in their relationship and happily said "I do."

On why she ultimately chose to go through with the wedding, Colleen told E! News, "As soon as I saw him cry and snort, I was like, 'That's my man.' So I knew that I was going to say yes as soon as I saw him."

And for those wondering, Colleen confirmed, "A year-and-a-half later, we're very, very happy."

During the season finale, Sal wasn't able to say, "I do."

In an E! News interview, he revealed that he is now single.

"Dating in the future now?" he said. "I don't even know the approach. I think the best approach is stay off the dating apps."

As we know, Deepti and Shake's time on the show did not end with a happily ever after. 

While Deepti revealed to E! News that she is now single, her brother and Shake have been feuding on Instagram."'Shake', bruh, you're a loser," Deepti's brother Sunny and his partner Hina Merchant Vempati wrote in a joint Instagram. "You minimized my sister's life by making some awful and cringeworthy comments about her."

They continued, urging Shake to "stay the f--k away" from their sister.

Looks like Shake will be heading to his Nobu reservation alone! 

Though Natalie and Shayne's time on the show didn't end with the exchanging of vows, Natalie told E! the "love stories" we saw on the show were "completely genuine."

"It's not reality TV," Natalie shared. "It's our real lives, real feelings, and our real relationships."

Which is why Natalie was so hurt when Shayne allegedly agreed to star on the spinoff series Perfect Match while they were attempting to make their relationship work post-failed nuptials. 

"He texted me numerous times he wanted to leave midway through filming because he still had feelings for me after we saw each other for [the] first time since our breakup at the reunion show taping," she revealed on Instagram, adding  that she "encouraged him to continue filming."

And when production for Perfect Match had wrapped, Natalie said she met up with Shayne but "ultimately told him we shouldn't reconcile." 

Shayne, meanwhile, briefly dated Too Hot to Handle alum Chloe Veitch after they connected on Perfect Match. 

Danielle filed for divorce from Nick at a Chicago court on Aug. 15, 2022, more than a year after they married on the finale.

The two announced on Aug. 17, 2022 in a joint statement on Instagram, "After much thought, we're saddened to share that we have separated and will begin the process of divorcing. While we have love for each other, our lives are going in different directions, and that's okay. Coming to this decision was far from easy and we will always wish each other the absolute best."

While the pair confirmed their friendship had blossomed into a romance in the After the Altar spinoff, which debuted in September 2022, Kyle announced just days later that they had split in the time since the special was filmed.

And in April, Kyle proposed to his girlfriend Tania Leanos, whom he did not meet in a pod.

The pod squad's most solid and seemingly content couple, of course, made it official at the altar, both going through with the marriage (despite some early hesitation on Lauren's part). 

In December 2019, both Cam and Lauren posted vacation photos from Cancun, though they didn't tag each other or post photos of one another. They also happen to be wearing the same pair of sunglasses, so…

But also, Lauren revealed in an interview with Elite Daily that they are still together. "Oh my God. We're so happy," she gushed. "It's just, like, every day we learn more and more about each other, and we honestly fall more and more in love with each other."

Cameron posted a photo from their wedding day, simply captioning the pic, "The happiest day of my life."

Despite some chilly feet on Barnett's behalf on the morning of the ceremony, Barnett and Amber exchanged vows in the finale's final wedding. And over a year later, they are still married. 

For their respective Fourth of July Instagram snaps, the husband and wife duo both wore the same American flag cowboy hat.

OK, if you thought these two were actually going to end up married at the end of this thing after their many, many struggles (the 10-year age difference, her being attracted to Barnett, Jessica not really being into Mark physically, etc., etc.), well...bless your naive little heart. 

Since their failed wedding, with Jessica being the one to pull the plug (duh), Mark revealed to the New York Post in February 2020 that he had not spoken to Jessica since that day, though he had reached out at one point.  

"I didn't hear back, but to me, it's just sending love out there," he said, adding the LIB experiment was still the "best" thing to happen to him. "Without Jessica, there would not be a Mark of today."

Mark and Aubrey Rainey wed in September 2022. Their sons, Ace and Axton, served as ring bearers.

As for Jessica, she married Dr. Ben McGrath, a podiatrist, in August 2022. The couple welcomed their son, Dax, this past June. 

Damian delivered one of Love is Blind's most shocking moments when he blindsided Giannina by revealing he didn't think they should get married at the altar. 

But the pair delivered another surpriae when they revealed they had reconciled during the season one reunion. Alas,  they broke up again, with Giannina telling E! News in August 2021 that she was "officially single."

She went on to find love on another reality show, entering a romance with Bachelor Nation's Blake Horstmann after the pair met while filming All Star Shore in 2022. 

Damian, meanwhile, sparked romance rumors with Too Hot to Handle alum Francesca Farago, with the duo dating on the spinoff series Perfect Match after her explosive surprise appearance during Love Is Blind: After the Altar.

Alas, Damian and Francesca left Perfect Match single.

Viewers were surprised when Kelly revealed she didn't feel a real physical attraction for Kenny and chose not to go through with the marriage, much to her family's surprise. 

Since their wedding day, Kenny has moved to Charlotte, North Carolina, while Kelly still lives in Atlanta working as a health and empowerment coach. One of her recent Instagram posts was about being single in your 30s—"I know boundaries now. I love myself so much that I won't just be with a guy bc I'm lonely."

In August 2020, Kenny announced he was engaged to girlfriend Alexandra Garrison. The couple wed two years later.

While they were one of the six couples to get engaged in the pods (well, at least the six that the producers decided to continue filming with), Diamond and Carlton didn't make it to the end of their trip to Mexico, breaking up in an explosive fight after Carlton revealed to her that he was bisexual. 

But with time, the former engaged couple could end up as friends, with Carlton telling People, "At this point, whatever happens, happens. It would be great. But it takes time I think. I think we both have to still process the way we feel. We still have different views on the way things panned out and what was done wrong."

Diamond added, "We have a lot of growing, both of us, to do and I am willing to grow. I love growing but I feel like we can at least come now to a medium and be able to sit and now talk because this is a very touchy subject. And both of us still get emotional about it. Even though it happened over a year ago, it still feels like it was yesterday."

Back in June 2020, a fan shared a post in Reddit that questioned Mark's relationship status after he and Jessica ended their engagement.

"My close friend's co-worker is dating Mark!!" the user wrote while including a screenshot of Mark's picture and another woman who appeared to be on a date.

LC, another woman Mark had connected with in the pods, then confirmed that they had been seeing each other by responding, "This is awkward because I live in Atlanta and I've been dating Mark since the beginning of May…Oh and btw, this is LC from Love is Blind…"

The couple would later confirm they were not together.