How Arie Luyendyk and Lauren Burnham Became One of The Bachelor’s Most Surprising Success Stories
Few couples within Bachelor Nation are more deserving of delivering a big fat we told you so than Arie Luyendyk Jr. and Lauren Burnham Luyendyk.
When then-Bachelor Arie split with final rose recipient and fiancée Becca Kufrin in a breakup agonizingly captured by cameras to take another stab at things with runner-up Lauren (known commonly in Bachelor parlance as "pulling a Mesnick", thanks to Jason Mesnick's After the Final Rose switch from Melissa Rycroft to now-wife Molly Mesnick), viewers began placing bets on the longevity of their romance. (Kelly Ripa, for instance, set the over/under at 100 days.)
But five years of marriage and three kids later they've surpassed every last one of those snarky predictions and the average length of a Bachelor Nation romance.
And yet they don't spend all that much time pondering the fact that they're one of few franchise success stories. As Lauren put it to E! News, "We don't really care." Echoed Arie, "We're grateful for the experience. We'll always be grateful."
Because while their 2018 finale actually lived up to its most dramatic ever billing, "The fact is, I'm really happy with Lauren," Arie, 42, explained in a GQ interview published two months after he was put through the reality TV wringer. "So for me, it was all worth it."
And ultimately his biggest crime, as he explained in the profile that dubbed him "The Most Hated Bachelor in America", was having some indecision about agreeing to forever with someone he'd only enjoyed a handful of outings with.
The day after his final date with Becca, who unlike the more camera-shy Lauren, now 32, "was so herself, on and off camera," he described to GQ, "Production woke me up at seven in the morning, and they were like, 'Okay, who is it?'"
He was conflicted, but The Bachelor production schedule waits for no indecisive man and so when it came time to slide that 3-carat sparkler on one woman's hand he chose Becca.
"I felt like I was trying to be logical," he explained. "I tried to think like, 'Okay, I know who Becca is, and she's a great person. In the moment, I felt like I was making the right choice."
Looking back, "It's not natural to have two people that you [have], at the end, and then have to break up with one person and get engaged to another person an hour later," he shared during a 2020 appearance on Couple Things with Shawn and Andrew. "It's just so weird. It's, like, no wonder it barely works."
Because as much as he liked Becca, he couldn't shake the reminders of what he'd given up, finding himself thinking about Lauren's sweet personality and their shared goofy sense of humor.
So with his fiancée's permission, he reached out to Lauren in the waning hours of 2017, sliding into her DMs on New Year's Eve and setting up a time to chat the next day. "As soon as I heard her voice," he recalled, "I knew that I had to end things with Becca."
In the made-for-TV recap it seemed like Lauren was immediately forgiving, eagerly taking back the man who had dumped her without a single worry. And she admits she was excited to see him.
Still, she clarified to The Hollywood Reporter a day after their After the Final Rose appearance, "Obviously I had my reservations and I needed an explanation behind it and reassurance of that, but I think we've gotten through that and are in a really good place."
Quite simply, she had to believe he was there for the right reasons.
"I still felt strongly about him, so, you know, if you're going to move past something in life together, you just have to trust each other," she would later explain on Shawn Johnson and husband Andrew East's podcast. "At that point, we kind of felt like it was us against the world. So it brought us close together and we realized we were the only people we could only lean on in that situation. That helped us trust each other a lot faster."
Leaving their controversial ATFR with a Neil Lane sparkler on her left hand, the pair ditched the naysayers by embarking on a seemingly endless vacation that saw them traipsing around Iceland, Spain, Australia and Hong Kong.
When they finally touched down in the States, they viewed some 70 potential homes near his condo in Scottsdale, Ariz. before putting an offer down on a $870,000 four-bedroom with high, vaulted ceilings and the walk-in closet of Lauren's dreams. "As soon as we walked in," Arie declared, "we knew this was our home."
The farmhouse style spread was the kind of place they could grow into, they hinted to Us Weekly, weeks before revealing they were already well on their way.
"I kind of had a feeling that I might be pregnant," Lauren told the magazine of learning she was expecting in the fall of 2018. "So my friend insisted on bringing a pregnancy test over." Giving her man the honor of reading the results, "Arie came out with the test in his hand and tears in his eyes. He was like, 'You're pregnant!'"
Just to be really sure, they rushed to the store for extra tests, each of the six they chose returning with the same result. "We weren't trying," he admitted, "but we are so excited. It's going to be a whole new chapter in our lives."
An anthology, really.
Four months after Bachelor host Chris Harrison presided over their 100-person January 2019 vows at Hawaii's historic Haiku Mill ("Everything that I imagined, it was that and 10 times better," she told Us Weekly of the nuptials"), daughter Alessi joined the party that May.
And though Lauren suffered a miscarriage a year later, the pair were soon raising a glass to happier news, learning Lauren was expecting a boy and a girl.
"This time around has been different to say the least," she shared in an emotional 2021 Instagram post. "The darkness that surrounds a loss is something not easily forgotten. The months of mourning, the months of hoping, to now, moments of worry."
Still, she acknowledged, "i'm proud of this body and what we've endured together. i'm proud of my second & third babies for growing so well and grateful for all the reminders they send me saying, 'mom, we're okay'. i'm proud of my journey through the darkness, because without that, the light i see now wouldn't shine quite so bright."
What followed was more darkness—of the literal variety—with the pair powering through the newborn days after son Lux and daughter Senna's arrival in June 2021 by switching off overnight responsibilities.
"I'll sleep in the twins' room, I'll take a night, then Lauren will sleep in the twins' room the next night," he explained in a YouTube video that August. "Just to give each other a full night's rest. Then the person who has a full night's rest handles Alessi first thing in the morning. It's working out pretty good."
Because, as it turns out, the two were rather adept partners.
"If I'm having a mental breakdown, Lauren picks up the slack," Arie expressed. "If she's having a mental breakdown, I get it together and I pick up the slack. I think that is what makes us great at—I'm tooting my own horn now—co-parenting."
Their other major secret, they shared in an interview with E! News last March, is to never stop enjoying those one-on-ones.
"We always make time for each other and we go on dates," Lauren shared, the two even launching DUO, a dating app designed to provide couples with night-out inspiration.
Agreed Arie, "We prioritize each other, over work, and even over spending time with the babies, because it's important to have a strong bond and communication. It's the biggest thing for us. We're going to talk about everything."
As in, everything.
A psych major when she studied at Virginia's Old Dominion University, "I always think it's best to just discuss your feelings right away instead of letting them fester," Lauren explained. "So I always do that myself and I encourage Arie to do that as well."
And the race car driver turned real estate agent is more than happy to stay in her lane. "She's very good at communicating, and getting me to do things," he acknowledged. "I'm very agreeable, because I love her very much!"
Of course, they're not the only pair still enjoying a rosy future. Will you accept our offer to check in on all your favorite Bachelor Nation pairs?
Status: Split
Though underwater welder John Henry Spurlock (one of Charity Lawson's suitors) and nurse Kat Izzo (she competed for Zach Shallcross' heart) didn't connect until midway through season nine of Bachelor in Paradise, they were willing to dive into the deep end. "I'm going to try something a little different," he said while offering up an Ascher cut Neil Lane diamond. "I'm following my heart today. My heart's telling me that you are amazing, you are everything that I'm looking for."
But days after the finale aired, the duo revealed they no longer saw forever in each other's eyes. "While our paths are taking different directions due to our career goals not aligning," they wrote in a joint Instagram post, "we are grateful for the love and support we’ve received from our family, friends, and Bachelor Nation."
Status: Split
Despite her nerves about a Paradise engagement, an all-dressed-in-white Eliza Isichei (one of Clayton Echard's exes) happily accepted Aaron Bryant's oceanfront proposal. Touched by the software salesman's decision to reach out to her mom for her blessing, she gushed, "I knew I was not in control of what was going to come out of my mouth."
The finale's coda acknowledged Charity's ex and marketing manager Eliza had hit some bumps after returning from Mexico, and days later they announced they had officially ended their engagement.
"Tricky emotions watching it all unfold," he wrote on Instagram Dec. 11. "We’re leading our amicable split with nothing but positivity and mutual respect for one another."
Status: Split
Though postpartum nurse Kylee Russell lamented boyfriend Aven Jones' unwillingness to get down on bended knee—a move he was purportedly prepared to make while romancing Bachelorette Rachel Recchia—she ultimately accepted Aven's Paradise proposal to "get out of here and make it work."
Though that meant her planned engagement gown remained packed, "I just had to do what I felt was right," she said. "Love is all about taking risk."
Two days after their December 2023 finale aired, she announced on her Instagram Stories that their relationship had "dissolved due to multiple infidelities." Aven later issued an apology to Kylee, writing, "I have made major mistakes in the relationship and hurt someone who was very close to me."
Status: Married
Well, they never stopped believing. And on the November 2023 finale of the inaugural Golden Bachelor season, 72-year-old Gerry Turner proposed forever to fellow widow Theresa Nist. "Through the course of this journey, I said to myself, ‘How lucky would I be to find a second true love in my lifetime?'" he told the cameras. "And today I'm going to get down on one knee, look at Theresa, and ask her to marry me."
Like, immediately. Joking, "we don't have a lot of time to waste," Gerry revealed that he and his New Jersey-based bride would tie the knot in a live Jan. 4 wedding special.
"We laugh until we cry. We face many challenges, including a near-death experience on the California freeway," she recited in her vows in front of nearly all of Bachelor Nation. "I promise to be your calm in the storm... but most of all to have fun for the rest of the days we have left on this earth."
Status: Engaged
"I am happy with how this season turns out!" Charity Lawson teased to E! News, a statement that way undersold her August 2023 finale. Dropping to one knee, integrative medicine specialist Dotun Olubeko proclaimed their love to be "perfect," asking the child and family therapist, "Would you do me the honor of turning this fairytale into a reality?"
While their happily ever after awaits—the pair said they're considering a 2025 or 2026 wedding—the Georgia native will first take a spin through the Dancing With the Stars ballroom. "All right, baby," Dotun told Charity on The Bachelorette: After the Final Rose. "So I know you like to cut up, you like to dance and you like to get down. You know that we've talked about this—about how amazing this opportunity would be. And I am so happy to be the one to tell you that you're gonna be on Dancing With the Stars! Baby, let's go!"
Status: Engaged
Zach shall get his happy ending. Despite more than a few Fantasy Suite-related stumbles, Zach Shallcross ended season 27 in March 2023 down on one knee. "I am so in love with you," he told travel nurse Kaity Biggar. "You are my world. The love I feel for you is something I could have never imagined."
In July 2023, the Texas-based duo made an even bigger step in their journey, with Kaity sharing on Instagram, "Officially roommates."
Status: Split
Oh, the tangled webs we weave when we attempt to date within Bachelor Nation. In one of the more dramatic finishes of Bachelor in Paradise's eighth season, Victoria Fuller, the medical sales rep who competed for Peter Weber's heart, turned up to the November 2022 reunion in a super-serious romance—and not with Johnny DePhillipo, the realtor whose proposal she accepted in Mexico.
Shortly after she left the beaches of Nayarit with DePhillipo—who romanced Bachelorette Gabby Windey—Fuller ended their engagement and took a trip to Italy with pal Greg Grippo (one of Katie Thurston's suitors). And it turns out that was amore.
Announcing their plans to move in together this past November, Greg said, "She's my person. We're growing day by day. And I see it going the marriage route. I want that. And I know that that's important to her. And I want to be able to take that step with her."
Status: Split
Ah, Mom and Dad. Though they left BIP season seven hand-in-Neil-Lane-diamond-free-hand, Danielle Maltby, who lost her fiancé to a drug overdose years before she competed on Nick Viall's season, and single dad Michael Allio (he shares 7-year-old son James with his late wife) seemed slated for Bachelor Nation couple goals status.
But a year after Maltby relocated from Nashville to be with Allio in Ohio, he confirmed they'd split. "We both threw a lot into this relationship and it's really awful when it doesn't work out," Allio said on a September 2023 episode of Jason Tartick's Trading Secrets podcast. "When things don't work out, when you realize that love is there, but you're not necessarily compatible, you mourn the loss, not of just that person and that friend in your life, but also the future that you had envisioned."
Status: Split
"I will love you until the end of time. I will love you until my last breath and I want to start forever with you," Brandon Jones proclaimed while proposing to "best friend" Serene Russell on season seven of Paradise.
Alas, their journey was cut short. Five months after their engagement aired, Brandon (a runner-up on Michelle Young's season) and Serene (who romanced Clayton Echard) announced they had split in a joint May 2023 statement. "We have tried to work privately on our relationship which has been incredibly challenging in the public eye," they wrote on Instagram. "This has been immensely hard to accept and painful, as there is a lot of love between the two of us. We are deeply hurting and can only ask that there be no hate."
Status: Split
Pilot Rachel's engagement to general contractor Tino Franco stalled when he kissed another woman while their 2022 season was still airing. "I do not stand by what I did at all," he said on The Viall Files. "It was not cool. It wasn't fair to Rachel, and it haunts me daily still. It's something I'm ashamed of and certainly wish I could have done it differently like a million times over."
Status: Split
Well, it was certainly a journey. Susie Evans initially rejected Bachelor Clayton's overtures during the 2022 finale only to reunite with him off-camera...and then split once again six months later.
But the L.A.-based videographer insists their breakup was for the right reasons. "The people around me could see that my sparkle had dulled and I was far from thriving," she wrote in a Nov. 21 post for her blog "Susie Was Like." She acknowledged they "had joyous moments often, but deep down I was struggling and felt misaligned with the best version of me."
Status: Split
Minnesota elementary school teacher Michelle accepted a Neil Lane sparkler from Texas-based sales exec Nayte Olukoya—and a $200,000 check from producers to put toward their future home. But, ultimately, the pair just didn't have the right foundation, announcing their breakup six months after their season's finale aired in December 2021.
Though he said on The Viall Files, "There was lots of ups and downs, lots of arguments, lots of fights and just not really clicking, not really seeing eye-to-eye," Nayte acknowledged that not having that final split conversation in person was "a dick move."
Status: Split
Viewers fully got onboard with Maurissa Gunn and Riley Christian's vision of a future filled with sweet Sunday mornings. But ultimately the BIP season seven duo only got a couple dozen weekends together.
"We have decided to go our separate ways," patient coordinator Maurissa (who romanced Peter Weber) and attorney Riley (one of Tayshia Adams' suitors) announced in a joint January 2022 statement. "Never did we imagine this, but we've come to a point where we both need to work on ourselves."
Status: Split
Bachelor Nation's first same-sex couple got engaged on season six of Bachelor in Paradise but announced their 2019 split on Halloween.
"What has always been at the forefront of our relationship is love and care for one another. Our priority is doing what is best for us. With a heavy heart full of love for one another we have decided it is best for us to take a step back from our relationship," they said in a joint statement posted on Instagram. "We ultimately want what is best for us in the long run and for us right now, that means being apart and growing individually."
Status: Engaged
Paradise lost? Not quite. Though Noah Erb and Abigail Heringer broke up in Mexico during the BIP's seventh season, they realized they could see forever in each other's eyes. Initially settling in San Diego, the travel nurse (who competed for Tayshia's heart) and the financial manager (who received Matt James' first impression rose) recently purchased a place in his hometown of Tulsa.
"About to enter our Chip and Joanna Gaines era because your girl bought her very first house!!!" Abigail wrote on Instagram in July 2023. "Excited to start our next chapter and for all the memories we'll create here!!" Starting with a few wedding plans. Ahead of their move, Noah proposed at a beachfront San Diego home in August 2023.
Status: Married
Never hurts to have a little practice run. While planning their September 2023 vows, Serena Pitt (a finalist on Matt James' season) and Joe Amabile (the Chicago grocery store owner who found fame after Becca Kufrin sent him home night one in 2018) decided to just do the damn thing at City Hall near their New York City digs, roughly one year after leaving Paradise engaged.
"JUST MARRIED !!" Serena, now hosting the Bachelor Happy Hour podcast with her husband, captioned the October 2022 video. "We are still having a wedding this September but who doesn't want to get married twice!"
Status: Married
"Mari, I am f--king so in love with you," boy band manager Kenny Braasch said as he slipped that Neil Lane diamond onto Mari Pepin's finger on the 2021 Paradise finale. "And I literally, like, I can't see my life without you."
So the Maryland beauty queen, who initially charmed Bachelor Matt, moved to Kenny's native Chicago and set about planning their forever. And before she and Kenny (eliminated by Tayshia Adams in week five) wed in a 65-guest oceanfront ceremony in Puerto Rico Nov. 11, they made their love permanent, getting inked with matching tattoos during a May trip to the Bahamas.
Status: Married
Former Bachelorette Becca and Thomas Jacobs (one of Katie Thurston's suitors) got together on Bachelor in Paradise season seven in 2021, broke up on the show, then reconciled after production wrapped.
In May 2022, they announced they were engaged, and that Becca proposed. "I hope that other people can now feel empowered and say it's okay to bend the rules," she told E! News. The real estate agent returned the favor that October. In September 2023, the two welcomed their first child, son Benson. Wrote Becca on Instagram, "No amount of words can begin to capture the amount of love and awe we have over this tiny man."
Though she's awfully fond of her 6-foot-6 guy as well. Weeks after bringing home Benson, the pair wed in a spontaneous Oct. 13 ceremony.
Status: Split
On The Bachelorette's season 17 finale in 2021, Katie got engaged to Blake Moynes. The pair first declared their love for one another during their overnight date, which involved a paintball excursion, a cowboy tub and a conversation under the stars.
Getting down on one knee, Blake told Katie, "You deserve the world, and I'm excited to support you and be there for you every day moving forward."
Three months after the proposal aired, the couple announced their split. They explained in matching statements, "We are so grateful for the moments we shared together and the entire journey that has unfolded this year, but we ultimately have concluded that we are not compatible as life partners, and it is the most caring choice for both of us to move forward independently."
Status: Dating
In the years since Matt and graphic designer Rachael Kirkconnell left his 2021 season together (then briefly split and eventually reunited), they've faced many a breakup rumor. But, yes, they're still sweet on each other.
"I think everybody needs to take a break from social media," he exclusively told E! News at a July 18 Baskin-Robbins event. "Our lives are lived so much in front of our phones that when anybody steps out of being on their phone 24/7, people think it's the end of the world."
Marriage remains the end-game for the L.A.-based pair. "I think the good thing about our relationship is we go at our own pace," the First Impressions: Off Screen Conversations With a Bachelor on Race, Family, and Forgiveness author told E! News in 2022. "And you've seen with other couples—they force the engagement and they're not together anymore. So, I think what we got is a working recipe and we're gonna get there."
Status: Split
After stepping in to complete Clare Crawley's 2020 season of The Bachelorette, Tayshia met and fell in love with Zac Clark. Though they left her season engaged, the former Bachelorette lead-turned-co-host later revealed that their relationship had some ups and downs.
"It's hard to be in a new relationship and then kind of go away for a couple of weeks, you know what I mean? And this is me being real and honest," she said on The Ben and Ashley I. Almost Famous podcast in August 2021.
She continued, "I think after that, it was kinda like we need to remember why we were with each other. And I think that that's absolutely normal." In November 2021, E! News confirmed the two had gone their separate ways.
Status: Split
Clare fell head over heels for Dale Moss during season 16 of The Bachelorette. In fact, the two were engaged by the fourth episode. The surprises didn't stop there as, weeks after Clare's replacement Tayshia nabbed an engagement of her own, Dale took to social media and revealed his love story with the hair dresser was already over.
The pair sparked reconciliation rumors a month later when they were spotted together. Fast forward to July 2021, after several reunions, and Clare and Dale were fully back together—ring and all. But that September, the two called it quits again. Clare is now happily married to Ryan Dawkins and they're expecting their first daughter together.
Status: Split
After his brief engagement to winner Hannah Ann Sluss and then subsequent split from runner-up Madison Prewett, fans were hopeful that the third time would be the charm for Peter. Alas, his romance with The Bachelor season 24 standout Kelley Flanagan wasn't meant to be, the pilot sharing on New Year's Eve 2020 that their nine-month relationship was grounded.
"While our relationship was filled with countless beautiful memories, our relationship simply didn't work out in the end," Pete posted to Instagram. "Kelley is someone I will always have a special love for."
The pair attempted to take flight once more in 2022, before revealing this past May that their romance had reached its final destination.
Status: Split
Following the dramatic 2020 finale, the couple announced on Instagram that they'd no longer be pursuing a relationship. "Madi and I have mutually decided not to pursue our relationship any further," Peter wrote. "Believe me this was not easy for either of us to be ok with, but after a lot of honest conversations, we have agreed that this is what makes most sense for the two of us. The love and respect I have for Madi will continue to endure."
Madi added in her statement, "I will always love and respect him. I am convinced our paths were meant to cross and we are both better because they did."
Status: Split
Peter and Hannah Ann were briefly engaged during season 24 of The Bachelor. Sadly, during part two of the finale, it was revealed that the couple was struggling a month into their exclusive relationship. Specifically, Hannah Ann was blindsided over Peter's lingering feelings for Madison.
"All I've ever asked for, is for someone to give me their whole heart like I'm giving mine to them. And you took away my first engagement," she expressed before giving back her ring. "You took that away from me. 'Cause I trusted you, and that's what you have continued to ask me to do. 'Be patient with me. Have faith in me.'"
Status: Married
They've come a long way since their #vanlife days. Though Dean Unglert (one of Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay's finalists) and Caelynn Miller-Keyes, who romanced Colton Underwood, split during season six of Paradise in 2019, they've been cruising together ever since.
Engaged in 2022, the former beauty queen wed her Help! We Suck at Being Newlyweds podcat cohost at a camp-themed affair in the Colorado mountains Sept. 23. "I just love him so much," Caelynn gushed to E! News ahead of the vows. "I'm just so excited to be marrying someone who's such a good person, who makes me laugh every single day even if I'm upset. I think our life together is gonna be really fun."
Status: Married
Dylan Barbour and his BIP season six love Hannah Godwin were basically knockin' on heaven's door when they tied the knot in a multi-day French affair. "The wedding was absolutely magical," Hannah exclusively told E! News. "I married my best friend surrounded by our closest family and friends and it meant everything to us. It was a dream come true."
Mostly, the content creator (who fell for Bachelor Colton Underwood before turning up in Mexico in 2019) is excited to officially call the tech entrepreneur (from Hannah Brown's season) her husband. "We obviously are in it for the long haul," she said of building a life in San Diego together. "Our families are super involved and close. A lot of it does feel like we have that marriage type of relationship. Obviously, we want to make memories and seal the deal and everything, but it is one of those things where I feel like we are married in a sense."
Status: Split
Following months of speculation, Bachelor in Paradise duo Chris Bukowski (who kicked off his multi-season Bachelor flirtation on Emily Maynard's season) and Katie Morton (she dated Colton) announced their 2019 breakup in a joint statement.
"We've reached a point in our story where we agree it's best to go our separate ways," they posted to their Instagram accounts that December. "We have chosen to love and respect each other as friends because that's the base of our relationship, and it's what is most natural for us."
Status: Split
Five months after meeting on the beaches of Bachelor in Paradise in 2019, a post-Colton, pre-Bachelorette Tayshia announced she and John Paul Jones had decided to go their separate ways. As she put it, "...we were living on opposite coasts, and working insane schedules that made it impossible to see each other and build a life with each other."
Status: Split
Connor Saeli (from Hannah Brown's season) and Whitney Fransway (Nick Viall's) had hit it off on season six of Bachelor in Paradise but then called it quits after having problems maintaining a long-distance relationship.
