Kelsea Ballerini Details Sex Life With Chase Stokes

Kelsea Ballerini is gettin' busy in her penthouse.

The country musician—who has been dating Chase Stokes since January—got candid on her sex life with the Outer Banks star... but not without a warning to mom Carla Denham first.

"Mom, turn it off! Mother, turn it off!" Kelsea laughed on the Nov. 29 episode of the Call Her Daddy podcast, before divulging that she's "having a nice time."

The "Subject to Change" singer explained that intimacy in her prior relationships was something she "always felt" was for her partner's benefit—but not so with Chase.

"My experience with it was very performative and for the other person," she noted. "And it don't be like that anymore."

Kelsea—who split with husband Morgan Evans in August 2022 after five years—explained that the physical connection is better with a stronger emotional connection as well.

"I didn't understand how it could be a real connector in a relationship. I never understood that," she shared. "I always thought that it was just something that you did because that's who you do it with. You know? And, no, no, no—now I realize it's a connector for people."

While Kelsea admittedly has a hard time talking about sex due to her Southern upbringing, she called herself a sex positive person who wants to make the topic less "taboo."

"The safety it gives you is so beautiful," the 30-year-old added. "You get to know yourself and it's a whole new world."

She revealed that her "sappy" love story with Chase traces back to Dec. 1, 2022 at 1:30 a.m., when Kelsea decided to shoot her shot by DMing him on Instagram while she was out drunk with friends at a bar. She said she had no expectations when they first went out and just felt "open" in the "new season" of her life.

They started texting and FaceTiming before meeting in person Jan. 7, 2023, which she considers their official anniversary. On that night, she invited him to a party where she was performing.

"He hopped out of his Bronco, and he did not say a word to me," Kelsea recalled, "and he grabbed my face and he kissed me and he pulled my face away and he said, 'Thank God you're real.'"

Flash forward 11 months, and it's the real deal—they even got matching Virgo tattoos together. 

As for her favorite thing about the actor? That he got her windows tinted while she was out of town because he wanted her "to be safe." 

But his vulnerability is a draw, too. "He's the most emotionally intelligent man I've ever met in my life," she noted. "I keep telling him he's a man written by a woman."

Jump heartfirst into Kelsea and Chase's romance:

In December 2022, Kelsea slid into Chase's DMs, and a romance blossomed shortly thereafter. The singer shared this screenshot on her boyfriend's 31st birthday on Sept. 16, 2023.

A couple which crushes sandwiches together...

Kelsea shared this pic on Chase's 31st birthday Sept. 16, 2023.

The two appear together at the 2023 event.

The two share a kiss at the 2023 MTV VMAs.

Kelsea Ballerini and Chase Stokes dressed to the nines when they attended designer Giorgio Armani's "One Night Only" event on Sept. 2 in Venice, Italy. 

The singer-songwriter and the Outer Banks star shared images of their getaway on Instagram, including snaps from a cooking class and lounging at the beach.

Kelsea shared this behind-the-scenes look from the event,

To commemorate Ballerini's 30th birthday on Sept. 12, Stokes posted a carousel of photos and videos of the three-time Grammy nominee. 

"dirty 30 looks pretty damn good on you ballerini," Stokes captioned the series. "i love you."

The couple only had eyes for one another at a Venice Film Festival event in August 2023. 

Ballerini posted a throwback to the beginning of her relationship with Stokes on Aug. 19, sharing a clip on TikTok of herself preparing for their first official date. 

"Happy weekend," she captioned the post, "heres a video i sent to my best friend before my first date with chase #howdoidothis #rollingupthewelcomemat."

Set to her song "How Do I Do This," which is about going on a first date after many years, Ballerini models her outfit in the video.

"Here's the look, with the boots" Kelsea says while checking herself out in a full-length mirror. Turning around to showcase her half-up, half-down hairstyle, she adds, "We've got the hair clip, because we're trying to be a cool girl."

She continues speaking to an unnamed friend, explaining, "He's picking me up and we're going to a sushi place and I'll call you tomorrow and for a full update."

Taking a deep breath and raising one arm and finger in the air, she finally says, "I can do this. I can do this." And, after doing a little dance, she proclaims, "It's just a date. You just go and you just eat food and you talk about things that you do, OK?"

The two were spotted on a summer date in NYC, where she performed on TODAY.

"It's just nice to feel so supported and seen," Ballerini said on the show of Stokes, "and, yeah, he's such a wonderful, wonderful human being."

Stokes shocked Ballerini when he unexpectedly greeted her at the airport in July, with both stars posting video and photos from their adorable reunion. 

The two attend Armani Beauty's ACQUA DI GIO and Gen A celebration in Malibu, Calif., in July 2023.

In May 2023, Stokes joined Ballerini on a trip to her hometown of Knoxville, Tenn.

The twosome attended the premiere party for the Broadway musical Shucked at Capitale in April 2023.

The pair officially stepped out as a couple at the 2023 CMT Music Awards in April 2023.

The two showcased their love on the red carpet.

In February 2023, Stokes shared a pic of himself and Ballerini showing some PDA.

The two first sparked romance rumors in January after they were photographed looking cozy at a football game.

So, how did their relationship begin? Ballerini slide into Stokes' DMs. 

"He shoots in Charleston and my manager lives there and he put the bug in my ear," the "Heartfirst" singer revealed on the Call Her Daddy podcast. "I've never seen the show but I just knew of him and I followed him and he followed me and I just swan dove right on in. His handle is @hichasestokes and I said, 'Hi Chase Stokes.'"

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